Hey, Soul Sister

Rumi, Quotes, Soul, Inspiration

Look, I’ve been thinking… and it’s important that you step out of your current frame of mind every once in a while, and reflect on your life and the many choices you’ve made (D-UH moment? No, nooo, listen!). It helps immensely! But like I ad-libbed earlier, you don’t need me to specifically tell you that because you already know. Even so, here I am, dropping some “maj” pearls of wisdom for you to think about… !

(As usual, none of these are in any specific order. I’m writing them down in a fashion as random as the way they popped into my head!)

1. Reality check, my friends! { W E E K L Y }

Let’s be honest – We hate ’em, but we need ’em! The way to do it would be to talk to yourself if you’re one of those (I am!), or get one of your best friends to do the needful. You know, think about the week that went by – the little bits and pieces you worked on, were successful at, didn’t so well at, and/or the new things you attempted. Essentially, it’s a “How was your week?” kind of thing but it’s got to be on to a deeper level. And don’t hold back, when you’re having one of those sessions. Afterward, make a list of goals for the next week and try your gutsiest best to stick to them! (I resolved to write two posts a week this October, so far, so okay! I’m cheating a little, but I’m getting the posts done.)

2. Shut up, and listen. { D A I L Y }

Tell yourself this, every single day, if you can. Especially when it involves your career or some other aspect that involves your future. I’m not saying that you always have to go by what people tell you, but you’ve got to listen to the folks who have “been there, done that,” at least. Whether their ways are/were right or wrong, they still are steps ahead of you. It never hurts to hear someone out (except if that someone is crooning Friday by Rebecca Black, yeesh!), and then apply their advice however you might like to. Now that I am in my late twenties, I will admit that I’m grateful to the people who advised me then because I applied this principle with all of my ex-bosses/mentors (truly, deeply – best advice ever!). Sooo… suck it up and listen, it will make you a better person than you already are.

3. Take all of that “self-sabotage”, and dump it in a self-destructing trash can. { D A I L Y }

Erm, I plead guilty! I don’t know about you guys but I find myself constantly sabotaging myself on an everyday basis (it’s not pretty, and I’m working on it!) –  I even know, for a fact, that some of my best friends do it too. Well, I will say this – it really is the worst thing you can do to yourself. I could fill a book – Nay, blog – with all the many instances in the past where I’ve missed out on opportunities because I was too freaked out to call back, or had trouble making a new and really great friend because I was worrying how and if they’d judge me for being myself. (Yes, let’s nod to all of us being idiots! Nooo! Self-sabotage! Have I taught you nothing?!) The classic symptom of this “super, super sucky syndrome” involves one over-thinking potential possibilities of anything to such a great extent, thereby killing the chance completely before it even grows the wings to fly. Point # 2, as a nasty bunch of “self-sabotagers”, we tend to stick together! Dispelling a bitter truth here… I’m sorry but you must let go of the weak links, especially the people that bring you down, chances of escaping such friends are very rare but you have to try. It’s okay if you’re friends with someone on a similar level of S.S, because you two can help each other out, then. But the super sad, whiny ones? Stay away from those.

4. C is for Cleanse. { B I W E E K L Y }

Cleanses. – They will save your soul! – Whether it’s a good ol’ system cleanse (morning yoga + organic eats), ridding your inbox out of all the gazillions of unread e-mails, giving away clothes that are two sizes smaller than your fit (and those that you never, ever wear/wore!), or a process that involves you getting rid of a bunch of tangible nothings – scraps of old letters you’re never going to read again, the occasional memento from an ex-BF (best friend, boyfriend, whomever!) you’re not friends with, anymore (that stuff’s gots to go, sistah!), you gotta do it. I’ve even heard that there is an S.M cleanse (it involves cutting yourself off from all of your social media channels for two weeks or more) – I’m happy to report I’ve tried this cleanse more than a couple of times, with ah-mazing results afterward. 

Relax. Reflect. Repeat.

P.S. Let me know your thoughts, will you? Even if not, I do hope that this very odd post helped because so many of us go through these things everyday (maybe even together), and wallow in the doldrums for all of eternity! All I’m saying is, I feel you.

[ D I S C L A I M E R: I know that I’m no Tina Fey (and I don’t usually write such lengthy posts regarding self-help on the Skye) but trust me, though this post might reiterate all the things you’ve heard before from various sources, it helps to listen + reevaluate. After all, we’re in our twenties. You will get stuck in a rut once, twice, thrice and all over again, but you shouldn’t give up or begin to not care two hoots about it. Sometimes, bidding a boring job farewell, or thinking of a new business might be tempting… go ahead, do it but it involves plenty of good work, and needs your patience and time. In the past, I’ve left things unfinished – sometimes I still do – over the years, I feel that I’ve learned better from my mistakes. ]

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Artwork by Roanna Fernandes

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